How to Cope With the Pain of Divorce

The pain of sacrificing a relationship you thought would last forever can be truly life-altering. Indeed, divorced people are three times as likely to commit suicide as married people, suggesting that for many, the pain of divorce is unbearable. It might seem hard to believe right now, but the pain will wane with time. Eventually, you’ll no longer miss your spouse or feel jealous when you see him or her with someone else. The time this takes varies, and there’s no “right” way to grieve your divorce. But if you’re struggling to get through the pain, here are some strategies that really can help. Limit Contact It’s not easy to do, but ceasing contact with your ex is the fastest way to feel better. Removing contact removes your opportunities for jealousy, rejection, and disappointment, while clearing your mind to focus on more important matters. If you have kids, you won’t be able to cut of contact altogether, but keep the contact you do have minimal. And remember, no contact also means no Internet stalking. Get off of your ex’s social media page; these pages are designed to make everyone look better than they are, and your ex is no exception. Social media stalking is only going to make you more miserable. Schedule Grief There’s nothing wrong with a good cry, and taking some time to grieve can be cathartic, in addition to getting you back on track more quickly. Rather than falling prey to your emotions, schedule time each day to grieve. Crank up the sad music; close the bedroom door, and feel what you feel. Then get back...