How to Choose the Right Family Lawyer for Your Divorce

How to Choose the Right Family Lawyer for Your Divorce

How to Choose a Good Divorce Attorney in Florida Lawyers, like everything else in life, come in all forms. Some are good. Others are bad, and a few are excellent. What are the signs of a good lawyer?  You need an excellent lawyer if you want to win your case, but it’s not easy for people unfamiliar with the legal system to separate the wheat from the chaff. This doesn’t mean you have to resign yourself to a mediocre attorney, though. A little education coupled with the desire to be a good advocate for yourself can help you get what you need. Signs of a Good Lawyer He or she values your time and his or her own time. This may mean encouraging you to get to the point or limiting how frequently he or she responds to emails; a lawyer who endlessly wastes time will not be able to manage his or her time sufficiently well to put up a good fight. He or she promptly returns phone calls or emails within 2-3 business days. Your lawyer tells you about your case’s weaknesses. A lawyer who tells you your case is a “slam dunk” may not have a good understanding of the facts or law. He or she might also be doing anything to Your attorney offers you advice about what you can do now to improve the long-term prospects for your case. This may include telling you that an idea you have is no good or that you need to change the way you interact with your ex. Good family lawyers specialize in family law, not family...

5 Steps for Business Owners Going Through a Divorce

Going through a divorce is stressful enough without the added hassle of worrying about harming or losing your business. But your business could be up for grabs, particularly if you built it during the marriage or your ex-spouse is a co-owner. If you’re beginning the divorce process and are concerned about your business, here are five steps you need to take now. Know Your Rights Florida uses an equitable division standard to divvy up marital property, which means the judge will divide your business according to what is fair. Before you file, you need to talk to a divorce lawyer who specializes in divorce-related business litigation. This is the best approach for determining the most likely outcome to your case, and can help you offer a reasonable settlement. Determine Your Business’s Value You need to know how much your business is worth, but this determination isn’t always easy. If you’re concerned that your spouse has hidden a portion of the business’s assets or you have not kept good records, a forensic accountant can help you unravel a complex financial trail. In most cases, the court will assess your business’s value based solely upon its assets and liabilities. If your business is partially dependent on your reputation, though, the court may adopt a “goodwill” approach to determine your business’s current and future value. Determine How Your Business Will Be Managed If you and your ex are co-owners of your business, settling your case is the best option. Otherwise it could be left to a court to decide how you manage the daily operations of your business – or even who...

How to Cope With the Pain of Divorce

The pain of sacrificing a relationship you thought would last forever can be truly life-altering. Indeed, divorced people are three times as likely to commit suicide as married people, suggesting that for many, the pain of divorce is unbearable. It might seem hard to believe right now, but the pain will wane with time. Eventually, you’ll no longer miss your spouse or feel jealous when you see him or her with someone else. The time this takes varies, and there’s no “right” way to grieve your divorce. But if you’re struggling to get through the pain, here are some strategies that really can help. Limit Contact It’s not easy to do, but ceasing contact with your ex is the fastest way to feel better. Removing contact removes your opportunities for jealousy, rejection, and disappointment, while clearing your mind to focus on more important matters. If you have kids, you won’t be able to cut of contact altogether, but keep the contact you do have minimal. And remember, no contact also means no Internet stalking. Get off of your ex’s social media page; these pages are designed to make everyone look better than they are, and your ex is no exception. Social media stalking is only going to make you more miserable. Schedule Grief There’s nothing wrong with a good cry, and taking some time to grieve can be cathartic, in addition to getting you back on track more quickly. Rather than falling prey to your emotions, schedule time each day to grieve. Crank up the sad music; close the bedroom door, and feel what you feel. Then get back...

How Should We Tell Our Children We’re Getting Divorced?

Families in Palm Beach, Boca Raton, and surrounding areas in Florida, like families across the country, are often tasked with one of the hardest things they’ll ever have to do: tell their children they’re getting divorced. The way you handle this initial conversation sets the tone for the rest of your divorce, and this moment may be something your children remember for the rest of their lives. Don’t reveal your divorce in a fit of anger or without thinking about how you’re going to do it. Your children deserve clear explanations and an environment in which it feels safe to ask questions and share feelings. Here’s how to give that to them. Be Clear and Specific Some parents don’t want to deal with the pain of telling a child a divorce is permanent, so they make the mistake of saying daddy’s going on vacation or that mommy and daddy are going to life separately “for a while.” This creates false hopes that can give rise to intense anxiety and depression. Your child needs to know that divorce is permanent and that you won’t get back together. Try something along the lines of “Mommy and daddy cannot live together anymore. We love you very much, and this has nothing to do with you. We’ll both still see you a lot, but we won’t be seeing each other as much.” Be Age-Appropriate As with everything else in parenting, you need to tailor your conversation to your child’s age and maturity level. You know your child best, but the general rule is to offer more information to older children. Children under the...

Is Valentine’s Day Divorce Season?

Statistically speaking, divorces begin picking up around New Year’s day, and steadily escalating up until about Valentine’s Day. What is the most romantic day of the year for some, then, could very easily turn out to be the worst day ever for those served with divorce papers when they were expecting candy and cards. The truth is that there’s no right time to get divorced. There’s always a holiday around the corner, a major life stressor, a child’s birthday, or some other reason that filing just seems cruel. But many people opt to divorce around Valentine’s Day specifically because they want to avoid cruelty. There are several potential explanations for this strange phenomenon. The Push for a Better New Year New Year’s brings with it big plans for a better life and a fresh start. People trapped in bad marriages, then, may see filing for divorce as the first step toward this new life. Sure, the process is painful, but it does offer a clean relationship slate, and some spouses are so eager to move froward with their lives that they’re ready to file as soon as the clock strikes twelve on New Year’s Day.  Surviving the Holidays No one wants to get divorced during the holiday season. Serving your spouse with papers a week before Christmas seems especially cruel, and there’s no living person who looks forward to seeing their kids go through their first divorced Christmas. For couples embroiled in unhappy relationships, then, the urge to divorce may increase as soon as the holidays are gone.  Avoiding More Romance No one wants to turn their life into...

When Should I See a Divorce Lawyer?

If you’re like most Florida residents trapped in an unhappy marriage, you don’t look forward to divorcing – even if you look forward to getting out of the emotional and logistical mess of a miserable relationship. It’s understandable that you might procrastinate, endlessly avoiding the trip to the lawyer that you dread. Procrastination, though, only increases your anxiety, and has the potential to undermine your divorce case. The right time to see a lawyer is as soon as you begin considering divorce as an option. Why You Need a Lawyer Now A lawyer doesn’t just handle your divorce. Your attorney can also offer advice on how your behavior now could affect your divorce in the future. For instance, he may offer guidance on documenting your relationship with your kids, proving abuse if your spouse is abusing you, or gathering evidence supporting your claims about your soon-to-be-ex’s assets. Many newly divorced people make mistakes that haunt them for years. You might deny your ex visitation, exaggerate his temper to create the illusion of abuse, or hide assets. A lawyer can stop you from making these mistakes before they destroy your divorce case.  The No-Obligation Divorce Seeing a lawyer does not obligate you to get divorced. Indeed, many people see divorce attorneys and then decide, based on what they learn, that it would be better to work on the marriage. Your visit to a lawyer could be the only thing that offers you reliable information about what you can expect from a divorce. And everyone deserves to make decisions with a clear head and a fully informed mind, so don’t deny...